I’ve been dreaming about writing this blog for years. I never felt secure enough to put my own ideas out there. The goal of this blog is to document my journey of discovering myself, my dreams, my sexuality. Often times by writing my thoughts out, I get a better sense of what I want.
For now, as I write for myself I am going to give myself the excercise of blogging everyday for 50 days. I took the excercise from Eileen. 50 days at least 200 words. It’s incredibly hard for me to publish my thoughts as I’m self-conscious and I’ve been debating how much of a relation I want this blog to my real life. Hopefully this excercise will help me get out of my shell.
The first area I want to put out there is the idea of female false submissiveness as was posted by Goose and Gander back when they first started the blog in 2005. I am frustrated of two main areas involving false submissiveness in the limited viewpoint of hetero relationships; how women have incorporated these behaviours into their own sexual repertoire and the way men know and understand the behaviour.
Let’s talk about women’s ”unreflective, unquestioning” (as Goose puts it) thought process to their sexuality which often results in many women not knowing what they want in bed. I come from a conservative set of friends (because it was safe) and I know a few of my friends who are doctors who have seen other woman’s vulva’s more than they’ve seen their own. Women need to take charge of their body and their sexuality. My education over my body came about late in life at the age of 21. It wasn’t until I had a better sense of my sexuality was I able to properly communicate to my partner what I wanted sexually or even just outside as a person. I felt I was able to take charge of the sexual message I was sending out to the world.
I’m also tired of men assuming what I want in bed. Unfortunatly, many of the men I’ve dated play by the script, women are submissive therefore I will play director. I’m tired of men who don’t take responsibility in learning how each woman works and also making it their partner’s fault.
I have to say I’ve been guilty of being passive in my sexual history but No LONGER! As a sexy single gal, my personal goal is to teach my next partner how to please me.
See you tomorrow.
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October 1, 2008 at 11:03 pm
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